Online couples counseling for residents of Oregon, Washington, Idaho & Connecticut
Repair your relationship ASAP with effective couples counseling
Most relationship issues can be repaired! If you're struggling with communication issues, recurring arguments, parenting disagreements, a loss of intimacy, lingering resentments or coping with the aftermath of an affair, don't lose hope! Finding the right couples therapist and acting now can make all the difference. If you live in Oregon, Washington State, Idaho or Connecticut, contact Marc directly.
Marc Zola, LMFT works with couples who are struggling with:
Communication Issues
Communication Issues
Communication Issues
If you find yourself stuck in a repetitive cycle of communication issues within your relationship, then you could likely benefit from couple counseling. Some symptoms that indicate you may benefit from couples counseling are:
- One of you feels nagged, the other feels neglected.
- You find it hard to listen to each other's point of view.
- One or both of you frequently use words like always or never, to describe disappointments in the other.
- You feel as though your partner just doesn't understand you.
Recurring Arguments
Communication Issues
Communication Issues
If you find that you and your partner seem to argue about the same issues repeatedly, then you are a good candidate for couples therapy. Common recurring argument topics may be:
- Finances
- Household chores and logistics
- Parenting
- Sex
- In-laws
These recurring arguments can result in increased conflict or avoidance and can be completely repaired!
Parenting Disagreements
Parenting Disagreements
Parenting Disagreements
It's not uncommon for each partner to have a different approach to parenting. The problem with this is that it creates inconsistency for the child and increases the chances of arguments between the parents.
Couples counseling can be a great support in helping otherwise well-intended parents learn how to be more effective rather than just be 'right'.
Loss of Intimacy
Parenting Disagreements
Parenting Disagreements
Here are some common signs that you would likely benefit from couples counseling:
- If you find yourself avoiding meaningful conversations with your partner, sharing less about your thoughts and feelings, or feeling like roommates rather than partners.
- If you have less interest in sex or are avoiding physical touch.
- Feeling less physically or emotionally drawn to your partner.
Increased Resentment
Increased Resentment
Increased Resentment
Here are some common signs that you would likely benefit from couples counseling even if you are holding resentments:
- Holding onto past hurts, blaming each other, or feeling unappreciated.
- A sense of isolation and lack of emotional support within the relationship.
- Spending more time on work, hobbies, or with friends than with each other.
- No longer enjoying activities together or feeling like you have nothing in common.
Remorseful Affair
Increased Resentment
Increased Resentment
Affairs happen not infrequently. If you or your partner had an emotional, internet-based, or physical affair, then repair is possible, under the following conditions:
- The offending partner has ended the affair
- The offending partner is remorseful
- Both partners want to repair the relationship
If you and your partner are experiencing any of the above symptoms, you are likely good candidates for couples counseling.
If your partner is not yet ready to attend, consider individual sessions with Marc to dig deeper into each of the above issues.
BENEFITS OF WORKING WITH MARC ZOLA, LMFT
Couples Counseling:
- Break free from problematic and repeating communication patterns
- Rediscover intimacy and find joy in your relationship
Parenting Help:
- Build resilience in your child
- Learn how to 'lead with love' in a way that minimizes disruptive behavior and creates a more confident child
Managing Anxiety at Home and in the Workplace:
- Build confidence and resilience, while setting both personal boundaries and professional boundaries
- Improve life/work balance by understanding how unresolved attachment issues impact your adult relationships
Attachment Awareness
Attachment Awareness
Attachment Awareness
Struggles can often be traced back to family of origin issues. Marc can help you identify how your own attachment style may get in the way of your ability to hold onto joy and execute at the highest level. By learning to see discord as a problem without a villain, you can make quick relational improvements.
A Direct Approach
Attachment Awareness
Attachment Awareness
If you're motivated and willing to hear direct feedback, you stand the best chance of relational repair. Marc takes a unique approach to psychotherapy by providing a detailed and somewhat blunt assessment to help you make relational improvements at home or work in less time then you imagine.
Do it Yourself
Attachment Awareness
Communication Issues
You don't need years of counseling to make lasting change. What's essential is having the right resources to help you learn how to manage communication in a loving and well-defined manner. Change is possible. Learn effective strategies to quickly begin experiencing results.
Communication Issues
Business Relationships
Communication Issues
If you find yourself stuck in a repetitive cycle of communication issues within your relationship, it's likely time to seek the expertise of a seasoned systemic therapist. A comprehensive assessment can pinpoint the root causes of these recurring issues and provide tailored recommendations for lasting, transformative change.
Parenting
Business Relationships
Business Relationships
Disagreements about parenting approaches are a common source of tension. Fortunately, it's possible to address these issues by learning how to align your parenting strategies, cultivate unconditional love, guide your child's behavior with kindness and empathy instead of punitive measures, and foster your child's secure attachment.
Business Relationships
Business Relationships
Business Relationships
Gain a better understanding of the emotional and psychological factors contributing to your stress. Learn how improved decision-making, enhanced communication skills, and a more balanced approach to navigating the complexities of business relationships can promote both personal well-being and professional success.
When is couples counseling NOT appropriate?
sustained, intimate partner violence
sustained, intimate partner violence
sustained, intimate partner violence
If you are experiencing physical or verbal abuse in your relationship which results in you feeling frightened and at times 'walking on eggshells' then you and your partner are NOT a candidate for couples counseling.
A cycle of violence > appeasement > tension > more violence is an indication that the perpetrator needs individual anger management training before he or she is ready to work on the relationship.
If you are a survivor of such violence, please seek individual support from trusted family members and clinicians.
suspicion of child abuse
sustained, intimate partner violence
sustained, intimate partner violence
Disagreements about parenting approaches are not uncommon, but if one or both partners are engaged in physical, verbal or emotional violence towards a child, then such behavior would likely be considered child abuse.
Psychotherapists are mandatory reporters who must report any reasonable suspicion of child abuse to the authorities.
If you believe you or your partner is engaging in abusive behavior, seek individual help right away to best support your child's safety and development.
ongoing infidelity
unresolved substance abuse issue
unresolved substance abuse issue
An affair is not necessarily a relational death sentence. Most relationships can be repaired after an affair. But in some cases, ongoing affairs or affairs where there is a lack of genuine remorse on the part of the offending partner, may reflect a more concerning pathology.
If the affair is ongoing and the offending partner refuses to end the other relationship, or if the offending partner has a long history of repeated infidelity, then couples therapy is contraindicated and individual therapy may be more appropriate.
unresolved substance abuse issue
unresolved substance abuse issue
unresolved substance abuse issue
Substance abuse can foster an environment of dishonesty, manipulation, and broken trust, making open communication and collaborative problem-solving challenging.
Additionally, the individual struggling with addiction might not be fully present or able to engage in the therapeutic process meaningfully. In such cases, individual treatment for the person with substance abuse issues is often a necessary precursor to couples counseling in order to ensure a foundation of stability and sobriety.
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